i managed to for now whie i wait for answers on the raspberryPi forums about the 360 controller and xboxdrv, i got the PS3 (Sony) controller working using this: http://booting-rpi.blogspot.ro/2012/08/dualshock-3-and-raspberry-pi.html
the numbers i got from mine are:
O=13 X=14 SQ=15 Tri12
rightD 5
Left D=7
Up D=4
down D=6
sel=0
start3
(sorry i didnt write down offhand what L1/2 R1/2 and L3/R3 were because recognition is… “Buggy” at best. would probbly be better if i had tghe pi on an higher PSU (using an 1.2A atm as it seems like the power comming from my 2A PSU isnt clean (i was getting false mmc time out errors on my SD Card and went away after changing PSU’s)